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Anal
This
tutorial is for all of you who kept asking about anal
intercourse. I finally got busy and put something
together. I am hoping this will help you out on your
sexual journey and that the information I provide for
you here will prove useful. Those of you who have been
here before will notice that this article doesn’t look
the same as it once did. I was on a roll and decided
that it needed some revamping. So here we are again. I
have also received suggestions and ideas from my
visitors that I have tried to include here as well so
that I might provide you with the best information
possible.
I’m
sure that you’ve all heard the jokes that end something
like this "If sex is a pain in the ass then you’re doing
it wrong". Believe it or not it does have some bearing
on this tutorial. Anal intercourse should not be
painful. Lack of preparation is probably the single biggest turn-off about anal intercourse. A typical scenario goes something like so. The couple decide to attempt anal intercourse but are not really fully prepared for it, he tries to push into her anus without much warning, she screams in shock and agony and ends up throwing herself away from the offending member and hits her head on the headboard. That’s the end of anal sex in their relationship.
With
the proper preparations anal intercourse can not only be
as safe as any other kind of sex, but at least as
enjoyable if not more so than just regular intercourse.
The anus can be a very erogenous zone and it contains
more nerve endings than any other part of the body
except for the clitoris. That said, I will also throw in
my usual, this doesn’t necessarily work for everyone
comment. Some will find it enjoyable and others won’t.
There
are a lot of people who get hung up on the "you’re not
sticking that thing in there" mentality. We have been so
thoroughly conditioned to believe that touching our anus
is bad never mind actually playing with it on purpose. I
must confess that five years ago you would not have been
able to convince me that I would ever have anal
intercourse much less like it. And I do have to admit
now that I do thoroughly enjoy it and it is a regular
part of my sex life.
There
is no necessary medical reason for the perceived taboo
against anal intercourse. If we are honest with
ourselves the idea of doing something we’re not supposed
to is exciting. If you practice good hygiene there isn’t
anything repulsive at all about it. It is a good idea to
make sure that you’ve gone to the washroom prior to
commencing your anal play. If you desire you can use an
enema if you so desire, but it isn’t necessary. If
you’re really worried, hop in the shower together and
lather each other up and then you can be assured that
everything is as clean as possible. If you haven’t been with your partner for a very long time, then you should certainly be using a condom for anal intercourse. Many couples will use a condom for anal intercourse anyway. It’s not a good idea to go from anal sex to vaginal sex without first cleaning yourself very thoroughly. The bacteria that live in your rectum can really create havoc if they take up residence in the vaginal canal. Self
Exploration
Now
that you are a little more comfortable with the fact
that it’s ok to be interested in anal sex you can start
exploring your ass. If you’ve never had any experience
with anyone playing with your ass you need to explore a
bit on your own and see how it feels and get comfortable
with the idea. In order to enjoy anal intercourse you
have to be able to exercise control over your mind. If
you are tense then your asshole is going to be closed
tighter than a drum and nothing will be able to
penetrate it. It is incredible just how big a part your
mind plays in anal intercourse. I have experienced anal
intercourse on numerous occasions and have enjoyed it
thoroughly, however I have found that the times I’ve
enjoyed it the most have been those times where I’ve
been the one to initiate it. It seems to be so easy
then, where on other occasions it is a bit more of
struggle to get into the right frame of mind and relax. The best place to start your explorations would be in the bathtub. Draw yourself a nice warm bath and climb in. Alternatives would be the shower or even just lying down on your bed. Take your fingers and begin running them over the insides of your thighs and over your pussy. As you become comfortable, draw your legs up and run your fingers down the crack that run from your pussy to your anus. See how it feels when you lightly touch your anus with your finger. Try pushing several of your fingers down against your anus. If it feels pleasurable, you might want to try masturbating while your fingers are pushing down on your anus. If you find that this produces pleasurable feelings for you or you think that it might keep up the exploration. Take it nice and slow, there isn’t any big hurry. The rectum is similar to an elastic pipe with a set of muscular rings at the end, the anus. The anus acts as a plug, to stop things from going out or letting them in. It tightens and loosens like purse strings on a bag and is fairly strong. The rectum can easily accommodate a large penis. Think about it, if the rectum can handle all your excrement then the smaller things like penises and fingers are really not a problem. The rectum is a sturdy flexible organ and isn’t going to be hurt by fingers or a penis or other similar objects unless there is intent to hurt. Before inserting a finger into your anus make sure that your fingernails are cut short and don’t have any sharp edges as they could easily scratch or tear the tissue inside the rectum and that won’t be a fun feeling at all.
Exploring Your Ass
After
some preliminary touching you will find that you want to
move on and actually insert a finger into your anus. At
this point it is a good idea to have some good lubricant
on hand. I personally would recommend a lubricant that
is water soluble. I have been advised by some of my
readers that Vaseline is also an acceptable lubricant as
the rectum is a self-cleaning organism, unlike the
vagina.
Make
yourself comfortable on your bed or whatever spot you’ve
chosen for your exploration and bend your legs slightly
bringing your feet closer to your ass. Using one hand
get into a comfortable rhythm of masturbation and take a
finger of the other hand, usually the index or the
middle finger works best, and apply the lubricant of
your choice to it. Gently start to push the tip of your
finger into your anus. You will feel it give way and
your finger will go in a little ways. To insert the
finger further you need to keep pushing gently and try
to relax your anus. This will enable you to get past the
thick muscle and into the rectum. This may feel a bit
uncomfortable at first, and there may be a little bit of
a burning sensation or irritation. This is a normal
response, just try to relax your ass completely and
continue the masturbation with your other hand. If you
want to, bring yourself to climax with your finger still
in your rectum and see how it feels. If this feels good
to you, then by all means continue with your
exploration. If it doesn’t feel good then withdraw the
finger and try again another time. Take all the time you
need to become comfortable with yourself.
If
you have enjoyed yourself so far, then you might want to
try wiggling your finger around inside your rectum and
see what it feels like. The inside of the rectum is very
soft and comfy. I find it’s a rather interesting
sensation. Try moving your finger around in different
directions and see what different movements feel like.
If you have your fingers from your other hand inside
your pussy you can push them towards each other and feel
them pushing on walls that separate them. Eventually you
will want to stretch the rectum a bit more so that you
can prepare for your partner’s cock at a later point. One way to do this is to try sliding another finger into your rectum to join the first one and to try spreading the fingers as far apart as you can. Only do what feels comfortable for you. Don’t feel that you have to accomplish everything in the same day. You may do better if you explore a bit at a time over several days. Practice tensing and relaxing your anus around your fingers. More than fingers
Now
that you are comfortable with fingers, it’s time to move
on to something a bit more realistic. A good dildo is
excellent to practice with. You can obtain one at a love
shop or order from many places on the internet. I would
recommend one made of plastic rather than latex. Latex
dildos are difficult to clean and have soft pores that
bacteria could be harboured in. Don’t use anything with
sharp edges or that can easily break.
On
your own try inserting the dildo into your ass
gradually, making sure that it is well lubricated. Try
pushing it in and out of your anus while you masturbate
yourself with the other hand. I have found that if I’m
already excited from masturbating it is much simpler to
push the dildo further into my anus. From this point you can move on and involve your partner in the exploration process. Make sure that he is aware that you are setting the pace and not to rush the whole process. He will be greatly rewarded by the results of patience when he finally gets to experience your ass, especially if this will be a first for you.
Postillioning
There
are a couple of ways to get your partner involved in the
exploration of your ass. They are postillioning and
analingus.
Postillioning is the insertion of fingers into the anus
and may involve massaging it and the rectum. At it’s
most extreme you can end up with anal fisting, but
that’s a whole topic on it’s own.
The insertion of your
partner’s fingers into your anus is a great lead up to
the ultimate of anal sex or it can even be a pleasant
enhancement to regular intercourse. This allows your
partner to become familiar with how you may react during
anal sex. It gives him a chance to explore your body
with you.
Normally, I find that the index or middle fingers work
the best, being a little longer than the others and
stronger as well. Don’t forget the lube! Run your
fingers over the anal opening, kneading and pressing
against it. You can use a circular motion if you like.
It’s just like giving a massage, you are helping the
area around the anus to relax. Make the insertion by
pressing gently and firmly inwards, wiggling the tip of
your finger as necessary. At this point if your partner
is comfortable and relaxed the finger should slide in
fairly easily. On the other hand, if the ass is tense
then your finger will not make any headway at all. You
and your partner will have to decide at this point
whether or not to continue or to perhaps leave it and
come back to it another time. Once your finger is past the anal opening you will feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus and beyond it, the soft sides of the rectum. You will need to keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus or the contraction of the muscle could just force the finger right out. When your finger is inside explore a bit, pushing the finger as far in as it will go, flicking back and forth. A great way to enhance this exploration would be to suck on your partner’s clit or stick your other fingers in her pussy. I have found that this combination makes for some pretty powerful orgasms. There is nothing better than having his mouth wrapped around my clit and fingers wiggling in my ass. It’s a great feeling.
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